Marriages vs. Weddings

Despite my seeming cynicism about the ‘royal wedding’ I have nothing against marriages. (Except maybe the casual kind, the selfish, loveless, or meaningless/vain kinds)  In fact, I’m rooting for Kate and William to be in love and married together forever, and to be the shining example of everything God intended marriage to be. I’m rooting for all traditional (no, I’ve no time for that subject) marriages everywhere to be all that God meant them and wants them to be.  I pray that couples will keep Christ the center of their marriages and their lives. I pray that they make their vows in all sincerity and call upon the Holy Spirit to help keep them. The wedding, however has little to do with any of the above except to provide special circumstances in which to make sacred promises to God and to one another.  The obsession with all the worldly trappings surrounding the wedding have little to do with the success of the resulting marriage. If as much thought, time, planning, dreaming, and praying were applied to the actual relationship, to loving the other person involved, to the realities of a great marriage, then the wedding would become secondary instead of the other way around.  I’m just saying……..

In the end, when Christ comes to “marry” His beloved bride, His Church, the Royal Wedding will be wonderful, but the marriage will be forever spectacular. I’m out of time. Dear readers please supply the appropriate verses – you’re so good at it!



8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Janis @Open My Ears
    May 05, 2011 @ 01:40:12

    While the wedding is not the marriage, even the Lord has a wedding banquet planned for His Church, His bride. From this I would conclude that the joining of a man and a woman in marriage is cause for a celebration that reflects the love and glory of God. My prayer during the Royal Wedding ceremony was that Kate and William would live out the strong words spoken by the clergy at their wedding. I pray that they will be, by the grace of God, an example of a godly marriage and that their love may blossom and strengthen under God’s care.
    Thank you for your instruction to weigh in on the marriage more than the wedding. But, you know us girls~


    • gloryteller
      May 05, 2011 @ 08:18:48

      Thanks for taking part in this discussion, Janis. Our prayers are much the same – Amen!
      It made me smile when you qualified your assertions by adding “but you know us girls”. 🙂 I shouldn’t over-analyze that should I……..Hmmmm No, I cant say I completely understand the emotion and thought processes surrounding a woman’s feelings toward her wedding. Trying to be objective, it seems those things begin to be shaped in a girl early-on by our “culture”. My hope is that the distortions of the truth by the world and the enemy don’t end up in deceiving and destroying her. The wonderful daughters of Eve don’t have to be slaves to their culture and to distorted truth, and to implanted emotions. I know this because I have seen the power of grace working in both women and men to overcome the power of the world, the flesh and the devil. By grace we can all live in truth, and rationality, putting first things first and lesser things second. “He who is in me is greater than he who is in the world!” Christ trumps culture! God bless you, richly Janis. See you in your blogsite/britesite!

  2. planejaner
    May 04, 2011 @ 13:49:44

    On Easter Sunday, our Pastor said this:
    Jesus is waiting at the alter for you.
    He has already said His vows.
    He is waiting for you to join Him.


    I thank you for your prayers for Godly marriages.
    May we be sanctified in them, and made more into the image of Christ through them.


    • gloryteller
      May 05, 2011 @ 08:29:09

      That is great, Jane, please thank your pastor for me! He said His vows and waits at the altar for ours! WOW!
      Sanctification – You always hit the nail on the head!
      Thank you, Jane and may God richly bless you and your blogging/briting ministry. (no, I’m not letting go of the BRITING MOVEMENT just yet, lol)

  3. Carol Ann Hoel
    May 04, 2011 @ 13:37:10

    I, too, pray that the marriage of William and Kate will be all it can be and that it will match the beauty of their wedding. Thank you for your words on marriage and the marriage of the Lamb. Blessings to you, Len…


    • gloryteller
      May 05, 2011 @ 08:32:25

      Thank you right back for attending, Carol Ann. Our prayers are important, don’t stop!
      Rich blessings upon the ground where you walk, C A.

  4. laura
    May 04, 2011 @ 12:23:52

    I agree with you that weddings (not just the royal wedding!) can get out of control and lose that entire focus of taking a sacred vow. I am rooting for William and Kate too–it sure would be nice to see a couple in the spotlight portray a godly marriage. Honestly, I don’t know much about them, personally–but they do seem to look at each other with a lot of love. Of course, we know it takes more than love to keep a marriage going! Thank you for linking up to playdates! Your post reminds me how important it is to make Jesus the focus of my marriage.


    • gloryteller
      May 05, 2011 @ 08:42:25

      Love is sorta important too. Hehe 🙂
      You’re most welcome. Playdates are fun, quality time with Daddy!
      Yes, marriage is a dance-line with Jesus in the middle. I just thunk up that one and you may use it, LOL 😉
      Thanks a million in joining the other girls in lending class to my comments!
      May blessings flutter down upon your head like canaries! 😀

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